Blindsided

Right now I am trying to take note of each emotion that I am feeling…

 

I feel sadness.

I feel anger.

 

I think those are the main two a person can feel after being blindsided by a friend. It’s painful when someone decides to no longer be in your life. In my situation, there also is some confusion as I have no idea what I did wrong as it was not told to me. I didn’t even get to say goodbye. And it pisses me off because I deserved a proper face to face goodbye. Not some stupid text in the middle of the night while I was sleeping. My texts go unanswered and they blocked me on Facebook. It’s hard to take this in as this person was a childhood friend and within the last few months we became better friends. I know they are a good person. Well, at least I thought they were…

 

I wanted this to be a longer post as my mind is consumed by this recent event. But I find myself at a loss for words…

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Author: paws2smile

I am a geeky animal lover and have an American Bulldog named Storm. Storm is my everything. She helps keep me sane by being my companion pet. I am an expert in chronic pain as I have Systemic Lupus, Fibromyalgia and migraines. I was diagnosed with Lupus in 2000 and the rest followed after that year.

18 thoughts on “Blindsided”

  1. I am thankful you’re voicing your hurt; it’s better then keeping it inside. I pray this is resolved, at least in your soul; but better yet, with your friend. Hugs of friendship and compassion my friend.

  2. Awe I am sending hugs and love to you. I believe you did the best you can and misunderstandings happen between friends. I pray for peace and a resolution to your sweet heart. Sending warm hugs and love to you! 💜💟

  3. I clicked like because of you expressing you were feeling upset. I have been in similar situations myself. I use to think friendships were the single most important thing that keeps me getting up each day. Now, I have 2 friends that I have had since school age. Friendships are like relationships it takes work on both sides and commitment too just to name a few things that make them work. Think about if the tables were turned and for a moment. Would you do this to him/her? If she did something that upset you would you just block/unfriend/ignore her/him? I don’t think you would……well someone that doesn’t give you a chance to even know what you did wrong doesn’t deserve all this emotional negativity you a exerting over. Just ask yourself the bigger picture of your life and how you want to live it is this the type of person you consider as one that will balance you? One that will hold you up when you can’t hold yourself? One that won’t listen to you when you are upset? One that doesn’t give people chances? Anyway, that is my two cents. Have positive, upbeat, kind, loving, forgiving people in your life and you will absolutely flourish as a human being…….best to you Annette

    1. Annette, Thank you for your kind comment. I think this is the post you mentioned you didn’t see? Well, I found out the comments in pending don’t automatically get approved after so long. LOL I didn’t know that I, myself, would have to approve some of the comments. I have quite a few to go through! LOL!

      But in all seriousness, again I appreciate your comment. And I realize that stuff, that people aren’t worth getting upset over if they treat you like crap. In that moment I was coming from an Emotional Mind and not Wise Mind. I am thinking more from Wise Mind now. 🙂

      1. Lol I am glad you found it ….I have been off for a few days so sorry for late reply. I have an emotional mind most of the time…lol I think people like us balance the world. I do try to be wiser though. 😉

  4. A loss for words is understandable based on how you describe your situation. Based on the fact that your “friend” has not given you the courtesy of a reason for the “distance” between you, then I would feel sad for her. She is going to have so many issues in life if she regularly treats people like that. Sounds like a case on immaturity but, regardless, I would suggest that she really was not much of a friend to start with.
    Alternatively, is there any possibility that she is going through a tough time and simply cannot focus on your attempts to get in touch at the present?
    Regardless, sometimes we just have to “let go” of someone special (I can relate). My suggestion is to “leave the door open” for him/her. i.e. send one final message letting him/her know that you are there for them if necessary….. and then step back and get on with your life. All the best Jenny. Keep smiling (It keeps them others guessing!) 🙂

    1. Thank you for your such kind words! It is very possible they are going through a tough time and are not able to tell me to my face. It is so difficult not to assume a certain thing (which is what I think they have done), but it is for that reason I wish that they would contact me.

      I had to let go of someone special in my life before but I at least told them why (future blog post). I know I will get back to my normal things, but I feel I need to grieve a little as I also cared about him more than just a friend… Thank you for making me smile. 🙂

  5. Perhaps you were wrong about your friend because a true friend would never do something like that. Difficult as it may be, be happy you found out what kind of person s/he was and just move on. Easier said than done? Maybe, but the alternative is to get in a circular conversation with yourself that has no ending. Your dogs will comfort you and don’t let that person steal your joy and happiness. That belongs to you…don’t give it away.

    1. Very true and the thought of maybe they don’t consider me a close friend came to mind. Thoughts of being close don’t always go both ways, sometimes it is just one-sided. It is easier said than done to move on but my mind knows it’s the right thing to do. I just feel that I need a little time to grieve.

      1. Take all the time you need, of course. And you’re right, sometimes we think something is one way when it’s not. Good friends don’t just walk away. Hope you feel better soon.

  6. How painful. I think that people have become such cowards to text and unfriend and not face whatever they are reacting to. Not having closure is unfair. Sending you hugs.

    1. I agree. 😦 Technology has replaced so much of what makes us human. It’s difficult for me to move on if I don’t have the closure, I seem to always need it. Thank you for the kind words and hugs!

      1. Hi Jenny – Wanting/needing closure has little to do with technology and a lot to do with being a normal sensitive human being. Celebrate you “normalness (?)”. That’s why we like you! 🙂

  7. I am so deeply sorry. I know how much this hurts. I had a long term friendship and the friend ended it a number of years ago and never told me why. I have contacted her numerous times…….she never responded. It DOES hurt…..but ultimately it is THEIR loss! (((hugs))) DakotasDen

    1. Thank you for the kind words. ((hugs)) I’m sorry that you have had to experience it as well. I know you are right, that it is their loss, but my heart just doesn’t believe it yet. 😦

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