When you first join a dating website, it can get a bit overwhelming. I’m not trying to brag but I received a lot of emails all at once in the beginning. I can imagine a man sitting at his computer saying, “Oh! Fresh meat,” as he clicks on my profile. Thankfully there are less emails today.
I decided to finally meet one of the men that sent me an email. He started the email with calling me beautiful. Ha, yeah okay. I’m cute but don’t consider myself beautiful or gorgeous. Not unless I’m dolled up or something…. Anyway, I decided to check out his profile. He is a good looking man and fit. A guy that looks as good as that does not like a woman like me. I’m not trying to be negative, just realistic. He kept pressuring to meet me that night and finally I caved.
This is not my first rodeo so I picked a safe place to meet him–at a park. We agreed to go for a walk with my dog because she was going a little stir crazy. He parked near me and actually looked like his picture. From the pictures, it made it difficult to see that he was a smaller frame. He was about my height (5’4″) or little shorter. Which is fine, I’ve dated a guy shorter than me before.
We chat for a moment then he mentioned that he had to pick up his brother at the airport in an hour (wait, weren’t we supposed to be on a date of some sorts??). I played along like we never made plans. We chatted for a couple more minutes then he drove off. He said he would get a hold of me after he took his brother home. I thought to myself, ‘Wow, he must have been so repulsed by me that he decided to make an excuse to ditch our plans.’ I apologized to Storm of the change of plans (i.e no walk) and we headed home.
I was surprised when he texted me later that night asking if I wanted to meet back up. I told him no and that I would another time, even though I had no intentions on doing so. Around this time is when I had decided to text one of my best friends, Nicolioli (my nickname for her haha). She wanted to know details about the guy and our meet, which I happily gave her.
Then he asked me to send a picture of my chest to him and I said no. Next he asked to come over and cuddle. I laughed and told him that I knew what cuddling led to. He was getting PUSHY and wouldn’t back down. He wanted to meet and it had to be THAT night. It’s not good to assume things, but I think it’s safe to say that he just wanted a piece of ass. I sent him a text stating, ‘I’m still saying no. And the more you don’t take my answer, the more I wonder.’ That finally shut him up. Sure enough, a few hours later he texted again but I didn’t bother opening it.
So, nothing too crazy happened but it makes me wonder what else will be sent my way.
If I could suggest one piece of advice to men about online dating it would be this: Think about what you use for your profile pictures. Seriously. They say a lot (or not a lot) about you. And I’m sure there are some guys yucking it up with putting a funny pic of them in their golden eight choices that they have. More than likely women will think it’s stupid if you think it’s funny.
25 thoughts on “One Fish”
With all due respect do you really want to meet someone on some dating site in today’s world? Head to church girl!
It’s all the same. Your friend could hook you up with her friend that is an alcoholic emotional abuser (which I have experienced). You can meet creeps on and offline. And I don’t do church. One kind of has to believe in certain things for that. Haha. No offense to people who do go to church. And I’ve actually heard of many relationships that start there so I know it would be a good place.
I get it . What I really meant was in any relationship it’s much better to look at the fruit in that person’s life then just believe the lip service. See who they hang with – where they hang.
True, I agree
Of course you do- you know I’m right!! Lol.
I did this for six months sorting from nearly 2500 men down to an even 100 “first” dates, never meals, but instead ice cream, pie, bagel and coffee or a walk down a well traveled town’s sidewalk or park trail. Fun times and try and look beyond the surface! 🙂 ❤
Send him a picture of your chest? Men. I just don’t know what to do with them anymore. It’s like they no longer know how to behave when they get behind a computer screen. Anyway, coulda been worse, believe me. 🙂
I know! Behind a computer screen and they lose to give respect. Lol very true
Yeah, he would’ve never said that stuff to your face. I’ve come across the same type of guy. Too many times to count. Cowardly dickheads with no manners. 🙂
There will be many odd characters – online dating or real life – but just keep trying. After all, you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince! 😀
Oh yes, I may give up now and then but I like to believe the thought that there is someone out there for me. And let me tell you, he better be one hell of a prince with how much crap I’m going through. Hahaha! I hope you have a great rest of the week! 🙂
Somewhere out there tonight, there’s a millionaire wondering if he’ll ever find a real woman. A woman who really does like dogs and is not just pretending. He’s tired of all the pretending. Is your phone ringing? 🙂
I totally loved this response and it made me giggle! Hehehe! Nope, not yet. I will make sure to turn the ringer up super high so I don’t miss his call when I sleep! 🙂
Let him turn his ringer up, awaiting your call. Sleep is more important than Prince Charming. Sorry I can’t like your comments — WordPress has problems with the like button. 🙂
Thank you – and here’s to finding you Prince! 🙂
I don’t know what to say except I am glad you kept yourslef safe and stuck to your guns. Happy fishing x
Hehe thank you. 🙂
Always trust your first instincts when meeting people, but remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and that begins with the person looking in the mirror. I used to do online dating sites but became so disillusioned with the respondees that I stopped. Lo and behold when I “least expected it” someone who I went to junior and high school with contact me through FB and we’ve been living together for nearly a year! It’s been quite the journey and I look forward to our subsequent chapters. Good luck. 😇
Very true… Ah no, not another person that believes in least expecting it! Just kidding 😉 My mom always tells me that but it hasn’t happened yet. I’m not a believer until it happens to me. Hahaha. I recently dated a friend from school. Didn’t work out but I’m happy that it didn’t. Thanks for the luck! Have a great rest of the week! 🙂
I just noticed your categories: Dating, denied, didn’t get lucky, fish, meeting for first time, men, online dating, player, see ya. Very creative. 🙂
I met my husband, best friend and fellow dog lover on match.com. When the stars are aligned the right person shows up. I was as surprised as he was that we found each other. There are a lot of frogs and frogettes out there. Be true to yourself yet still keep your antennae up 💛
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GOOD ADVICE. DON’T ACT SO TERRIBLY DESPERATE!!!!
You have to wonder, What was he thinking (if anything)?